Modern-day relationships are driven by greater awareness and emotional clarity than ever before. We often romanticize older generations as being “more patient,” but the truth is that many of them endured unhappiness out of fear, social pressure, or lack of options. Compromise often comes at the expense of personal well-being.
Today we are learning that love should not mean suffering in silence. It shouldn’t demand being with someone who doesn’t meet us halfway. Real, lasting love, which we admire in movies, may seem effortless on screen, but in real life it requires intention, effort, and emotional maturity from both people.
With increased self-awareness, people are better able to identify what they need in a relationship. And just as we often talk about “red flags,” it is equally important to recognize the green flags or signs that you are with the right partner.
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Here are 10 green flags that actually indicate a healthy, evolving and emotionally safe relationship, as shared by Ankita Kaul, founder, counselor and women’s positivity coach at ‘The Unfiltered Ladies’.
1. Gratitude over hatred
A partner who consistently acknowledges even your smallest efforts is a rare gift. No one is perfect and mistakes happen. But a man who focuses more on what you do right rather than on your flaws shows emotional depth and appreciation.
2. Desire to break old patterns
Every person adopts certain behavioral patterns in relationships, being overly available, avoidant, or defensive. The green flag is when your partner recognizes these patterns and actively works on them. Change requires honesty, self-awareness and love, and the effort itself is a sign of commitment.
3. Genuine support
You feel supported emotionally and practically in your goals. Your victories feel like shared victories. Your dreams are not ridiculed or belittled. A supportive partner wants to see you grow, not shrink. It should always be a you versus me problem and not you versus me.
4. Meaningful communication
Healthy communication is more than deciding which movie to watch or where to eat. This means expressing needs, resolving disputes, and following through on promises. Constructive criticism, delivered with empathy rather than criticism or blame, keeps relationships growing.
5. Respect in disagreement
Respect is most visible when you don’t see eye to eye. A partner who listens to people even when they disagree shows emotional maturity. Nothing is ever achieved through shouting matches and ego battles. Peace, patience and the ability to respect each other’s imperfections strengthen the bond.
6. Healthy boundaries
Every relationship is unique, and there are no universal rules. What matters is that both partners understand and respect each other’s non-negotiables. Boundaries don’t create distance, they create safety and clarity.
7. Trying to “date” each other
Love grows when nurtured. Regular date nights, small gestures, long walks, and moments of intentional connection can bring more closeness than hours spent scrolling together or watching TV. Appreciation keeps a relationship alive, so never stop appreciating and “praising” each other.
8. Complain calmly, not explode emotionally
Disagreement is normal, but delivery matters. Approaching complaints with a calm, balanced mind rather than reacting immediately leads to quicker, healthier solutions. Relationship is about finding solutions, not about scoring points.
9. Action on words
Words are easy; Consistent actions are rare. Notice whether your partner’s efforts are in line with their promises. Are they making changes, even small ones? Do they come for you? Mutual efforts and visible progress indicate a partnership based on development rather than empty assurances.
10. Awareness and accountability
A partner who recognizes his or her mistakes, takes responsibility, and actively works to improve is a keeper. When someone listens to your pain without being defensive and responds with care you know you are with someone who values the relationship. Awareness is love in action.
In the end: it’s about shared effort and genuine intention
No relationship is perfect, but a healthy partner has more positives than negatives. What really matters is the willingness of both individuals to learn, change, grow, and love with all their heart.
When someone is truly invested in you, you feel it not just through words, but through energy, stability, and the comfort of knowing that you are emotionally safe with them. A healthy relationship is a deep connection of emotional, physical and spiritual connection and if both people continuously work on it, all three relationships flow as smoothly as the flow of water in a river. This is the biggest sign of a beautiful and healthy relationship.
If your relationship reflects most of these green flags, you are probably with the right partner who is not only in your life but is committed to walking on the journey with you.