Toxicity in a relationship is represented by a series of actions or patterns of communication that are harmful, hurtful or detrimental to the emotional, mental or physical health of one or both individuals involved. As shared by Dr Poonam Poonia, Clinical Psychologist, Senior Consultant, Cloud Nine Hospital Gurgaon, these actions often result in a negative atmosphere, destruction of trust and a negative impact on the overall health and stability of the relationship.
Examples of such behavior include, but are not limited to, manipulation, control, criticism, derogatory comments, dishonesty, disrespect of boundaries, lack of empathy, passive-aggressive behavior, gaslighting, and various forms of abuse (be it physical, emotional, verbal, or psychological). Drawing a parallel line from the above, in any healthy relationship, certain seriously toxic behaviors should never be tolerated.
constant criticism and insultsThe most common behavior is constant criticism and insults. When a partner constantly puts you down, undermines your self-confidence, or makes you feel inadequate, it can undermine your self-esteem and lead to resentment.
cleverness: Another toxic behavior is emotional manipulation, where one partner uses guilt, fear, or other tactics to control or influence the actions or feelings of the other. This can create a dynamic of power imbalance and undermine trust.
Dishonesty and Deceit: Dishonesty and deceit are toxic to any relationship. Whether it’s lying about small things or hiding important truths, deceit breeds distrust and damages the foundation of a partnership.
Lack of respect for boundaries: Furthermore, a lack of respect for boundaries is detrimental to the health of a relationship. Whether it is encroaching on personal space, disregarding consent, or ignoring stated boundaries, not respecting boundaries can lead to feelings of violation and insecurity.
abuse: Finally, any kind of abuse, whether physical, verbal, emotional or psychological, should never be tolerated. Abuse is a clear violation of a person’s fundamental rights and dignity and requires immediate intervention and assistance to ensure safety and well-being.
Overall, recognizing and addressing these toxic behaviors is essential to maintaining a healthy and satisfying relationship. And people should be open to discussing these with family and friends to improve their lives and not get depressed. A life full of toxicity is pretty boring. It can lead to fatal consequences in the long run. These behaviors can take different forms and intensities, but they all contribute to imbalance, unhappiness, and dysfunction within the relationship.
