Friends are not related to us by blood, but that is where the uniqueness of a relationship lies – it is a special bond that you choose and nurture over the years. Close friends can be your support system, an important source of happiness just like family. Friendships can be formed at any age – be it in childhood or adulthood. However, like any adult relationship, friendships can face many challenges as you grow older. On International Day of Friendship 2024 – which is being observed on August 4 – Shivani Misri Sadhu, a psychologist and relationship counsellor, shares her insights with Zee News Digital on facing challenges in friendship, how to nurture a relationship and when to take a step back, and perhaps say goodbye.
Friendship Day 2024: Challenges faced in friendship as adults
As adults, maintaining friendships can often be challenging due to busy schedules, career demands and family responsibilities. Shivani Misri Sadhu says, “The balance between work and personal life does not leave much time for social interaction, leading to feelings of loneliness. Geographic distance, changing interests and different life stages can create a gap in understanding and connection.”
In addition, the emotional vulnerability required for deep friendships can also be challenging, making it harder to form new relationships and maintain old ones as you age, Sadhu says. “Trust issues and past experiences can also hinder openness, leading to misunderstanding and resentment. Despite these challenges, it’s important to invest in friendships for emotional support and well-being,” says the relationship counsellor.
Happy Friendship Day: How to nurture and preserve the relationship
To maintain adult friendships, prioritize consistent communication, even if it’s brief, Sage says. “Schedule frequent get-togethers, either in person or virtually, to stay connected.” It’s important to be a good listener and show genuine interest in each other’s lives.
As you get busy with families and careers, it may not be possible to be involved in each other’s lives on a regular basis, as you used to be in your teens or early 20s. “Be understanding of busy schedules and be flexible with plans,” says Sadhu.
It’s important to show gratitude and thankfulness to your friends and celebrate their successes. Offering some more tips, Sadhu says, “Offer support during difficult times and respect boundaries. Don’t let conflicts escalate; resolve issues calmly and with empathy. Keep a positive attitude and share fun experiences. Most importantly, remember that quality matters more than quantity, so enjoy the time you spend together.”
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When to say ‘goodbye’ in friendship
It’s hard to do, but sometimes, just like in a romantic relationship, one has to accept that the friendship has passed and it’s time to move on. “Knowing when to say goodbye in a friendship is the hardest part, but sometimes it’s necessary for personal growth and well-being,” says Sadhu. “If a friendship repeatedly brings negativity, stress, or emotional exhaustion, it’s probably time to walk away. This can happen when trust is broken, there is a conflict in values, or someone feels undermined or disrespected.”
If the relationship no longer supports mutual growth or continually drains energy without reciprocation, it may be best to break up. “Letting go can be a difficult but empowering choice, allowing space for healing and new connections. It’s important to remember that saying goodbye does not diminish the value of past experiences. Instead, it recognizes that some relationships, like some loves, have an expiration date. Ending a friendship can be an act of self-care and a step toward a healthier, more fulfilling life for both parties,” Sage said.
