“He is mad”.
“It’s all in his mind”.
‘That’s easy”.
“She’s stuck”.
How many of these, of the infinitely more succinct generalizations, have you heard about a woman, from a man? Over the decades, the paranoia that plagues women and the perception of an unacceptable aura has, surprisingly, persisted. Undoubtedly men are guilty. But sadly, women are also like this. However, the most disturbing thing about this reality is that more than a conscious progress, this reality is actually a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That’s where Amy Dunn comes in. gone girl Have a crisp watch. We have Gillian Flynn – who wrote Amy – and David Fincher – who brought her to life for the reels, to thank for that. Smart, agile and highly motivated, Amy had ‘that girl’ energy imprinted in her aura. So doesn’t it bother you at all to learn how she used every last inch of space to keep a man – just a nice, old man – criminally attached to her? Sadly, being desperate in (or for) love is not a foreign feeling to most people. So you get the psychological gameplay carefully designed by him. And by the end of the movie, it’s easy to wonder how you just watched a very credible crime thriller. But it goes deeper than that.
What prompted Amy to limit all her talents to a desperate attempt to catch a man? The answer lies in the iconic cool girl’s monologue, something that has become more and more relevant with each passing season. So then, who is the best girl? As Amy explains, cool girl is “game of fucking”. All the time, overtime. He is absolutely right. She is well dressed but has no problem with any kind of carelessness. She knows how to conduct herself with poise, but when her man wants to make her the noisy life of the party, she’ll be ridiculously easygoing about it. The most important thing is that she does not upset her husband by pretending to be a high-maintenance girl. A piece from In Style magazine draws a very interesting parallel between the social media trend where girls perform high-maintenance beauty and self-care rituals that “keep them low-maintenance”, essentially a form of this manic mental fetish. Is expansion. Agree, not all women throw themselves into meticulous self-treatment routines just to catch a man’s constant fancy. But then again, can you really say that no woman does this?
Coming back to the point of not being a bother, a cool girl will never interrupt her man’s day, life or routine. She will be up for anything that doesn’t cause her any inconvenience, even if she constantly makes a mess by making herself uncomfortable. It is essentially just the appearance of a person, nothing more, nothing less. Correct. Inhuman. In human.
She is very unique, unique. But is she hers, or a psychologically constructed reflection of what the man in her life thinks she wants?
For your consideration, here’s a verbatim excerpt of the monologue, to really put things into perspective: “The cool girl is hot. Cool girl game. Cool girl, she is fun. A cool girl never gets angry at her man. She just smiles in a distressed, loving way… She likes what she likes… When I met Nick Dunn, I knew he wanted a good girl. And for that, I’ll admit, I was willing to try…I drank canned beer while watching Adam Sandler movies. I ate cold pizza and lost a size two…I was living in the moment…I can’t say I didn’t enjoy it some. Nick teased me about things I didn’t know about. A lightness, a humor, an spontaneity. But I made him smarter. Fast. I inspired him to move forward at his level. I created the man of my dreams. We were happy pretending to be other people”.
Criminal, right?
