Maternity, although the depth is complete, often comes with an invisible cost- the calm eradication of a woman’s identity beyond her role as a mother. In a society that glorifies sacrifices and nutrition, many women are celebrated for how well they give, not what they are for when they are not giving. Hope is so deeply woven in cultural and emotional norms that a woman forgets herself, not as a crisis but as devotion.
Removing identity does not mean rejecting maternity. This means that re -finding some parts of the woman coming into existence, beyond being a mother and beyond being someone’s mother. This means allowing mothers to be a complete human being; Furious, curious, creative, sexual, ambitious, or simply calm, without crime or forgiveness.
One of the greatest obstacles for identification is internal belief that motherhood should come at their own price. Many mothers are designed to feel that giving priority to their passion, career or welfare is selfish. But the truth is that children do not benefit from a mother who disappears in their service. They thrive with a mother who is emotionally alive and makes a model of perfection, boundaries and authenticity.
Loss of identity is not only a matter of emotional anxiety, but a mental health. When women are constantly playing a role without space to express their needs, desires or dreams, the result is often irritation, depression or emotional numbness. The labeled that can be labeled in the form of irritability or exhaustion is often a deep grief on some parts that had to silence them.
Dr. Chandni Tuganit, Life Alchemist, Coach and Heeler, Founder and Director, Gateway of Healing shared some insights how mothers can recover their identity:
1. Start by allowing yourself: The first step is often the most difficult- allowing yourself internal to listen more. Many mothers indicate the role of carer beyond the role of something. Removing the identity begins with accepting that you have passion, goal and feelings outside motherhood.
2. Create place for small acts of selfishness: Rigid changes are not required to retrieve your identity. It can begin with simple acts- to journal your ideas, reading a book, which you enjoy, going to walk alone, or re-connecting with a creative hobby. These moments are reminded that your inner world still exists and is worth noting.
3. What redefined looks like support: Support is not just physical help with homework or childcare. This is about emotional verification and being asked, “How are you beyond being a mother?” Find out relationships actively- partners, friends and communities where your complete self is accepted and valuable.
4. Explore professional and creative desires: Whether he is returning to work, starting a new project, learning a skill, or making something from scratches, respect some parts of you that is ambitious, curious or operated. These chase are not selfish; They are a sense of your developed identity.
5. Determine limits without forgiveness: Not to say, protect your time, and to carve the place for your needs are necessary practices. The boundaries allow you to respect your energy and strengthen that your personal needs are valid like your family.
6. Look for medical or support if needed: Working with a physician or coach can help mothers to reduce the internal crime, their voice can be re-discovered, and the process of years of self-ecosystem. Fiery spaces provide clarity and a roadmap back to themselves.
