The horrific murder of King Raghuvanshi by his newly married wife, Sonam has shocked the nation. According to the latest news reports, Sonam loved a person named Raj Kushwaha and hatched a conspiracy to kill her husband. He hired three hitmen to get rid of the king. Reports also mention that Sonam was not keen on marriage, but finally agreed to tie the knot to give family pressure. As a distraught sister of the king asked, thousands of people across the country had the same question: Why did you not leave the king instead of killing him and left? Whereas a web of lies and deception appears?
The murder is devilish, and no situation can correct the task of killing another human being. But while this is an extraordinary and unimaginable situation, being forced to get married can cause many disadvantages. Shivani Misri Sadhu, a psychological and relationship specialist, shares his insight on forcible marriage and how they can have a devastating effect on themselves and partners.
Forced marriage causes psychological stress
Sadhu says, “Forced marriages mostly take away persons of their autonomy and emotional security. When someone is forced to marry against their will, it can give rise to feelings of resentment, anxiety and emotional isolation,” says Sadu. She says, “As a relationship counselor, I have seen that such marriage lacks the original foundation of mutual respect and choice. Emotional toll is mostly hidden but deep, which affects mental health, trust and self-values.”
Although nothing can justify violence, Sadhu says that we should understand that forced marriages can cause immense psychological stress. “The solution lies in respecting individual options and ending the generalization of emotional force in the name of tradition,” says counselor.
Walking away is not always easy
Many women do not walk out of marriage or do not refuse to marry, but even a extreme step, even murder or committing suicide? “While walking away looks like a clear choice, for many women, it is not so easy. In deep patriarchal settings, refusal to marry or leaving one caused most shame, threats and loss of family support. The fear of separation, social decisions, or even violence can feel more terrible than living in a merciless or unwanted relationship.”
The monk adds, “As a doctor, I have seen women who feel completely stuck – emotional, economically and socially. When their voices are silenced again and again, the frustration can capture. In such extreme mental states, some can not see some sorrow, but in the rigorous and diabolical cases, the murder.
The expert said that it is not justification – this is a call for society that stops ignoring emotional suffocation, which lives with many women. The real solution lies in giving women freedom not to say and support for safely walking away.
Organized marriage: red flag to look out
Sadhu says that systematic marriages can work beautifully – but only if both individuals have agency and mutual honor, then Sadhu says. Unfortunately, the red flag is often ignored in the name of family pressure or tradition. According to the monk, there are important warnings to see here:
Lack of consent: If you feel forced or emotionally feeling blackmail saying yes, it is a serious red flag.
Disrespect or dismissal: If the other partner disregards your opinion, dreams or boundaries quickly, it rarely improves after marriage.
Timelier: Pressure should be put to decide without any time or to get married quickly so that the person can never be taken lightly.
Controlling behavior: See out for early signs of control – excessive calling, jealousy, or trying to determine your functions.
Avoid hard conversation: If discussions about values, finance, or future expectations are repeatedly brushed, it is a matter of concern.
“A healthy arrangement begins with openness and mutual respect, not force, fear, or silence. Listen to your intestine, and never ignore discomfort in the form of ‘adjustment’, Sadhu says.”
Dos in long -term commitments
Some dos and doses, as mentioned by the monk:
DOS:
– If you feel uncertain or uncomfortable – then speak – Your consent matters.
– Take time to know the person beyond surface-level interaction.
– If you need a perspective, then include a reliable friend or doctor.
– Set the boundaries early – emotional and physical.
– Inspection the dynamics of the family – how the other side treats you and their family.
No
– Do not agree with crime or family pressure.
– Do not ignore red flags like anger issues, disrespect, or control.
– Do not rush in a decision because “this is the right age.”
– Do not be silent – If something seems wrong, talk about it.
– Do not believe that you can “fix” someone after marriage. People change only when they want.
Unhappiness in marriage: Families are not oblivious, but are often in refusal mode
So, how is the husband or wife and family where a man/woman is forced to marry, is so oblivious to their unhappiness? Are the red flags not clear? Sadhu explains that often, this is not oblivion – this is denying. “Family and even spouses can choose to ignore the emotional crisis because it may mean to accept uncomfortable truths-that marriage was not agreed, or that the tradition was not given priority on goodness,” Sado says, “in many Indian homes,” in many Indian homes, “as a woman. “This.” This generalization of the victim silences the real warning signs.
Experts say that to identify their partner’s crisis, especially in marriages run by expectations, in emotional relations, in emotional relations, can be emotionally uneven or reluctant. “The deep issue lies in our cultural conditioning: we focus more on social appearances than most emotional realities. As long as we do not see the story to move from” bus settling “from” bus settling and to be emotionally safe and respected “,”
